Embracing the Surprising: Sueann’s Surrogacy Story

Ever marvel what would occur in the event you mixed a global household constructing journey with a worldwide pandemic and a shock supply? In that case, this story is for you!

Rising Generations surrogate Sueann by no means imagined so many challenges and adjustments would come up throughout the course of. Nonetheless, she discovered herself with wonderful relationships and loads of significant moments to have fun. We spoke with Sueann about her expertise and what she’ll bear in mind most about her surrogacy.

Sueann at her embryo transfer with Dr. Kolb and her husband
Embryo switch time with Dr. Kolb

Whereas there have been some COVID-19 protocols to regulate to, Sueann discovered that the precise means of changing into pregnant and giving start wasn’t a lot completely different from her earlier experiences. “There have been a number of additional assessments, as a result of it was an IVF being pregnant,” she defined. “However, pandemic or not, there was no distinction.” 

With the newborn’s meant mother and father positioned in England, Sueann was well-prepared for digital communication. Regardless of their bodily distance she and her meant mother and father received to know one another effectively as they navigated their first embryo switch, then one other, and eventually a 3rd (and profitable) try. They stayed in contact utilizing WhatsApp and began an everyday Saturday telephone chat. The meant mother and father had been even in a position to video chat with Sueann throughout lots of the physician’s appointments. 

“My relationship with the dads was [and] is wonderful!” she enthused. “This journey took us two years, so we received to know one another and our households. We ship one another flowers for giant milestones.”

Sueann at 12 weeks of pregnancy.
12 weeks pregnant

Sueann remembers the joy and setbacks of IVF as unforgettable components of the method. ”The primary — and typically extra — time you might have an embryo switch,” she stated. “There may be such build-up earlier than with meds, and assessments, and screening. Then, you get to the massive day and it’s so fantastic and wonderful. I cried each time, as a result of it’s the hope that in that second all of us are creating life. It’s very highly effective.” In fact, she added, the post-transfer acupuncture, meals, and pampering by her accomplice additionally contributed to the specialness of the day.

Just like the pandemic itself, Sueann’s supply day was stuffed with the sudden. “My water broke two months early,” she defined. The meant mother and father had solely simply turned of their paperwork to enter the nation two days prior. “Fortunately, the embassy was in a position to accommodate them, and so they had been right here in California later that week.”

The hospital’s customer coverage supplied yet one more problem. “At first, the hospital stated they couldn’t are available till start after which just one,” Sueann recalled. “After speaking to some individuals, I used to be in a position to have each of them in.”

Sueann spent 12 days within the hospital bonding with the meant mother and father earlier than delivering by way of an pressing C-section. “I used to be in a position to have one of many dads with me and he was in a position to see the newborn being born,” she remembered. “He held my hand the entire time and was so supportive.”

Sueann baby bump photo with belly buds
Stomach buds and a stomach bump

After supply, the meant mother and father hung out with their new child within the NICU, whereas Sueann spent extra time within the hospital to get well from a sudden onset of an infection. As soon as she was well-enough, she visited the household frequently to ship breastmilk. 

“I didn’t meet him till he was out a month later,” Sueann defined. “I completely didn’t thoughts, as a result of each of his dads had been there and couldn’t have requested for extra.”

Whereas the birthing expertise didn’t go in accordance with plan, “the second they pulled the newborn out, each me and one of many dads had a second of, ‘He’s right here! He’s actually right here!’” Sueann shared. “Attending to see how completely happy each of them are and the way a lot love they’ve for his or her son makes every part price it.”

When requested to explain what she’ll bear in mind most about her surrogacy expertise, Sueann singled out a treasured second within the first time that she was in a position to see the newborn’s heartbeat. “It took us three transfers to get to that time, so I didn’t consider or dare get excited till I may see a heartbeat,” she defined. “We did at 6 weeks! I used to be in a position to video with the dads, and I bawled my eyes out. All of us had been so emotional. Like, lastly, we did it.”

Sueann’s recommendation for surrogates, she stated, is just persistence. “Simpler stated than accomplished, however be affected person with your self,” she stated. “Be affected person with the method and revel in all of the little milestones that occur throughout the journey. It might take some time to get pregnant and ship, however as soon as it does it feels prefer it occurs so quick!”

Oh, she added, and there is only one extra fast tip: “Pads!” she implored. “Spend money on tons and many pads!” 

Rising Generations has adjusted our protocols all through the COVID-19 pandemic to proceed offering protected and memorable journeys for everybody concerned. Whether or not you’re a surrogate, egg donor, or meant guardian, we’re right here for you.  Contact us at the moment to be taught extra or to get began.